How to Find Your Soul Mate

By Gail Goodwin

The soul mate, soul companion and twin flame are archetypes. The soul mate or soul companion is a symbol that represents a deep desire for a significant other in your life. They symbolise someone you can count on, who understands you, who will always be there for you, who loves you from the beginning to the end of time. The twin flame archetype represents the urge for wholeness or completeness through the union of active masculine and receptive feminine qualities in every individual. If this is what you want, then you must be prepared to give the same in return. If you have not learned to give the following to yourself:

  • to be there for yourself
  • to inspire yourself
  • to trust yourself
  • to accept yourself
  • to care for yourself
  • to be generous with yourself
  • to be nurture yourself
  • to be true to yourself
  • to be loyal to yourself
  • to have faith in yourself
  • to believe in yourself
  • to laugh at yourself
  • to honour yourself
  • to love yourself
  • to know yourself
  • to sustain yourself
  • to be patient with yourself
  • to communicate with yourself
  • to listen to yourself
  • to tolerate yourself
  • to challenge yourself
  • to confront yourself
  • to make peace with yourself

…and much more to satisfy your soul, then how can you do it for someone else? You have to be able to count on yourself to do these things for you and only you, or else how can you possibly give what you don’t have to another? Especially if having this other person in your life is, or would be, so very important to you. This is not meant to imply that you must be perfect before you enter into a relationship, but if you have certain expectations from a partner that you want them to fulfil, then if you are not able to give the same or similar in return, because you can’t, don’t or won’t give it to yourself, then you are setting up yourself and the relationship for failure. Further, and from another perspective, to put the burden of such high and idealistic expectations onto a potential partner is a recipe for sabotage, failure, disappointment and worse, heartbreak.

These yearnings and desires for special and significant others to appear in your life are a call to action. The ability to take action is a masculine quality. Dreaming and yearning is a feminine one. If you dream of soul companionship, or long to find your soul mate or twin flame, or you yearn to live amongst like-minded people, that yearning is a calling. It’s a call to you to become the person you’ve been searching for.  A calling indicates your purpose. The call for a soul mate, soul companion or twin flame indicates that currently, a part of your life purpose is to be your own best friend. You must give what you yearn for to yourself. You are being called to become a soul companion to yourself. You are meant to live in communion with your like-minded self.

Instead of wishing for one or two special people to come into your life to provide these things for you, if you cultivate a sense of soul companionship with yourself, you create a base to build a spiritual haven for everyone you will ever meet. A spiritually exclusive yearning will be transformed into an all-inclusive life purpose.


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6 comments on “How to Find Your Soul Mate

  1. Pingback: Twin Flame Dynamic | Soul Love

  2. Amazed by the simple truth mentioned by you, that if we cant satisfy our own soul then there is no point satisfying the others soul, first and last what we seek and what we should do is to satisfy and respect our own soul.

    • :-) ;-) ;-)

  3. Big, big thank you for reposting this :) Very much appreciated.

    • Your welcome… Thanks for writing it. I love your articles :-)

  4. I can’t begin to tell you how much I gain from reading your articles. Every article contains so much truth that I sit with a copy and pen, and keep jotting down the main points. I have never been happier with myself in this life. My heartfelt gratitude to you. Wish you the best, and keep writing brilliant articles and keep inspiring others!
    Love and Light. :)

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