The Twin Soul Connection
By Livingstons World (December 5, 2010)
Very often there is an initial meeting of the twin souls and often one half of the duo is more spiritually awakened and “gets it”. The other may not be quite there, but they are deeply touched by the experience.
Sometimes they remain in contact like this, and sometimes the two are “deliberately” torn apart and separated over years to go and work on their own lives and commitments and deal with karma in other relationships before finally reuniting down the line.
But are the twin souls destined to be together?
How entrancing to find the same magical alchemy still at work, just as it was at the first meeting – a recognition of a deep rooted love so entrenched and so accepted, it could only have been forged in other lifetimes together. You might ask: is that love at first sight? a recognition of an ancient love?
Inevitably in twin soul connections come up against the “dance” the connection and the disconnection between the two that is incredibly frustrating, and cannot be rushed. Often one party is keen to move the relationship on to higher levels, whilst the other doesn’t know what the hell is going on and doesn’t want to deal with the relationship, as it touches deep and painful emotions that may have been suppressed. So they try and escape the relationship. They are referred to as a “runner”.
When this happens, the other twin experiences a bereavement, which never heals, until the next reconnection.
The “runner” has perhaps experienced a lifetime of destructive love affairs. Unable to accept love when it is proffered (even though they may crave it). They may have trashed it, kicked it around like a football and found subtle ways to push it away because they have somehow felt unworthy, unlovable, claustrophobic or simply have never found the right person. For the other twin, the experience is like a searing pain through the heart. In conventional relationships eventually the wound is healed, but not so in a twin soul connection.
The intensity of the connection means that each one feels the other’s pain and confusion and there is much telepathic interchange. Both are pulled around by the compulsion of the energy, and are connected by what seems like an electrical cord.
Gripped in mutual “obsessive” behaviour the energy can be confusing. It is quite common for the “runner” to profess language bordering on “I love you,” but maybe it comes out as something else, quite veiled, and then for that “runner” to retract and contradict what they have said. They feel foolish and vulnerable. But in time the “runner” finds themselves in a no-brain situation.
They are faced with the choice of living in pain from the separation from the twin soul, or returning and facing that deep love, working through their fears (often unfounded) of possible rejection and reaching their own personal Eden.
For the other party who has been willing all along to go that extra mile, the spectrum of emotions experienced till then is infinite. Sometimes they just believe that the connection is entirely one-sided, or that they’ve imagined it all along and feel foolish and vulnerable.
During the whole process the parties have to remain strong. Twin soul connections never happen at convenient times. There is often the matter of existing and committed relationships, money issues, and a whole million other practical and logical reasons why these two, on the surface shouldn’t get together.
There can be great differences in age, or religion or they may live continents apart. Quite often one may be in an emotionally unfeeling, yet long term relationship, whilst the other is in a controlling and abusive one. Both can feel trapped.
But never forget, Madam Destiny in her infinite wisdom has gone through the whole process and trouble of bringing these two together, and twin soul connections are quite rare.
There can be little doubt that meeting up with the twin soul pulls one or both onto a more spiritual path as they look back and marvel at how they were brought together.
To change one’s life like this takes enormous courage, but it also takes infinite patience. And if you are in such a pairing, you can experience a twin soul connection both as a gift and a curse!
The lessons of why we unite with our twin soul can be varied, but one reason is to teach each other about accepting love without fear, about healing the pain of love and loss and bringing the two halves of the soul back together again.
If you are able to look at the birth charts of both, you will often see synastry involving Pluto, the planet of deep transformation, Saturn the planet of rigidity and control at work. Both are very karmic. In deep love affairs, also look to Chiron in the synastry to see how she is touching Venus in the other chart.
Learning to have patience and not forcing the relationship is part of the twin soul process. There should be no blame here – only deep and unconditional love.